India is a home to a number of religious sects that reside together as one nation. Every sects has its unique traditions and customs that individuate make them different from the others. Marriage holds the same ecstatic value for each and every sect of our society. While some of them bring tears in the eyes, the others evoke fun and laughter owing to their unusually. So taking the fun part forward, today I am going to bring in to your knowledge some of the customs of marriage that are religiously followed by the different sects of India. Here we go:
Bengali weddings ritual is as sweet as their language. Where the bride takes encircle of groom’s seven times (saatPaak) by covering her face with betel leaf and at the end completed the encircle showing each other’s eye. This ritual call shubhodristi followed by saatpaak. Another ritual is Kaalratri, held day after the wedding night were bride and groom can’t see each other as per Bengali mythology, were Behula’s husband was bitten by snake and died just next night of the marriage. But kaalratri is more fun for bride were her in-law’s to make her comfortable and welcoming to the family arrange a game night.
The Malayali weddings are held in the early mornings in sober and sophisticated manner. They do not bring with them the pomp and grandeur or musician and they follow the tradition very strictly and completed in peace full manner. The bride’s father welcomes the groom by washing his feet and complete the marriage when groom ties a yellow thread(thali) around the bride’s neck.
On the day of the wedding, the mother of bride and groom visited to nearby river to collect holy water for bathing custom. Both of them must carry a brass stand with lighted diya, placed over a heap of rice along with a pair of betel nut and leaf, a coin and a knife. They collect water from the water body while the companions sing BiyaNaam songs and then walk back without looking back at the pond or lake. The coin is given to the bride or groom and the knife is tied to the Gamosa that they have to carry everywhere safely till the wedding is over.
For most of us, a groom refusing to marry right before the wedding is the scariest thing possible. But this is exactly how the Tamil-Brahmins marry! Confused? In a Tamil wedding, right before entering the mandap, the groom has a change of mind and decides to follow asceticism. The father of the bride has to perform a ritual called “KasiYaatrai” wherein he reaches out to the groom andtries to convince him to take up family life. Unusual things like an Umbrella, Sandals and Hand-fans are used to woo him back.
Uniqueness of Gujrat wedding is bride’s attire. Bride typically wears a traditional saree called Panetar. Panetar sarees are generally white in color with a bright red border typically made of gajji silk. The saree and the border are often embellished with zari thread work and stone embellishment making the saree quite heavy. It is gifted to the bride by her maternal uncle.
Ponkhana, also a fun part of gujrati wedding were bride’s mother welcomes the groom in the most spectacular way, first performs an aarti and then playfully pulls the groom’s nose and takes him to the wedding venue. This denotes that groom needs to be humble and grateful towards the bride and her family.
Only in Indian Christian wedding you can see the fusion of western as well as regional traditions. You will see a Saree-clad bride walking down the aisle at a Kerala Christian wedding and the Goan Christian weddings will reflect Portuguese culture in their proceedings.
Christian wedding is organized in church and it all about bouquet,bridesmaid, vow,ring,cake and blessings.Both are blessed by the priest and Everyone joins for a feast along with cutting of the wedding cake. All present raise a toast in the name of the newlywed couple
In Kashmiri weddings, a ceremony called ‘Diugun’ is performed which is similar to the ‘HaldihanthRasam’. When the groom and his family arrives, both the fathers of the couple exchange nutmeg as a symbol of their friendship.
Like a Gujrati wedding Ponkhana in Maharashtra also follow Karmasampati ritual were bride’s father or brother playfully twist groom’s ear to remaindering responsibility toward bride. During the wedding, the couple is separated with a silk shawl. Thereafter, the ‘Mangalashtak’ is recited and the shawl is removed. After performing a few rituals, the couple seeks permission from their parents to get tied in the knot, after having their consent the Pheras are finally performed.
“Toran” is a function which is unique in Rajashaniwedding. Where the groom enters the wedding venue, he using the neem stick touches the toran which is hung on the entrance gate by the bride side. This ritual helps to remove negative energy.
Muslim wedding is called as “Nikah”. Wedding is completed by saying kubulhai 3 times by groom and bride where Kazi read the NikahNaama and at the end they signed on that nikahnaama.
The unique tradition in Punjab is “kalira”(without kaliraPunjabi attire is incomplete), its silver and gold plated leafornament which is attached with chura (the red and white colour bangle which come from maternal uncle). As per Punjabi tradition believed that when the bride shakes the kalira to unmarraied girls head that girl is the bride next to be on who’s head the piece of kalira falls.